Home, sweet car. | Part 2: How I Turned My SUV Into A Mini-Camper. by Shana Berenzweig

Palo Duro Canyon State Park Campgrounds | Texas

Palo Duro Canyon State Park Campgrounds, TX


This is a looong overdue Part Two of a Two-Part Series.

Read Part One: Why I Turned My SUV Into A Mini-Camper here, and hopefully there’ll be Part Three one day (although, who knows, do people even read blogs anymore?!).


Like many people, I love tent camping, but I’ve also long dreamed of having a little home-on-wheels for longer, more comfortable trips. Also, like many people, this is financially out of reach for me for the foreseeable future.

So, waaay back in the summer of 2019, I got inspired to build a sleeping platform for the back of my SUV. Y’all can read all about why I did this in the first post of the series.

If you search for ‘car camping’ or ‘suv camping’ or something similar anywhere online, you’ll find tons of examples of people building out sleeping platforms, cubbies, kitchens, and other elaborate set-ups in their SUVs, vans, and trucks.

Now, after a ridiculously stupid amount of time of this blog draft just sitting unfinished in my drafts folder, I can add my little, simple DIY to that collective effort.

My perfectly lovely Acura RDX, while great for everyday life and regular roadtrippin’, isn’t exactly the best candidate for this sort of thing, but after researching and talking with others, I got it done with the help from my dad (even though I’m not in any of the pics, I promise I contributed, too!).

Salt Creek Recreation Area, WA

A few things before I start…

First, the photographer in me has to say that most of the photos below of building the sleeping platform were taken with my cell phone and aren’t the greatest. It was a very hot summer Texas day and I did not feel like building and worrying about getting the perfect shot.

Second, you’ll need to have and be comfortable with a saw and a drill for this project or know someone who is. While the overall design was mine, as y’all will see, my awesome dad did a lot of the physical work of cutting pieces, as carpentry and DIY projects like this are most definitely not my strong points. One day I hope to be more knowledgeable and comfortable about doing this sort of thing myself, but I also really like doing it alongside my dad and creating those memories at the same time.

I originally built this for my 2017 Acura RDX, but I’ve since moved to a 2021 RDX and had to make a couple adjustments. I’ve also added a sliding tray table, but I’ll get into that more later.

There are resources online that document this process much better than I can, but I hope sharing my experience in any form will be helpful and perhaps inspiring for others.

Newhalem Creek Campground | Marblemount, WA

Please bear with me and my descriptions and knowledge. I’ll do my best to try to provide measurements where I can, but in the end the measurements of your specific vehicle will ultimately dictate the design and materials you need. When I was doing research into other people’s set-ups, I quickly realized that the big picture is what mattered most, not necessarily the exact measurements of others.

Santa Cruz Mountains, CA | August 2019

Before you start cutting and drilling, you obviously need to take your vehicle’s measurements and figure out your sleeping platform design. If you search on the internet or social media, you’ll find lots of examples of how other people did similar builds. The ideas are seemingly endless and you’re bound to find something to spark your imagination for your own vehicle and needs.

A few things to keep in mind while designing your project:

  • To take the back seats out or leave them in? I needed to leave my seats in for various reasons, so that trumped any desire for more head room and space if I took them out. Your situation may be different though.

  • How much headroom do you need? I’m not particularly claustrophobic, but I also didn’t want to be sleeping right up against the ceiling. In the end, because of how the platform had to be made in order to make it level, I didn’t have much choice in this area.

  • Do you want to store stuff underneath the platform? I did, but not so much that I’d compromise on headroom. Ultimately, the height underneath the platform was dictated by the leg height needed to make everything level. It worked out pretty perfectly for me. I have plenty of space for my needs and the spot fits some standard plastic storage bins I already had.

  • What else is important to you for sleeping and traveling in the vehicle comfortably? For me, it was more important to have as much sleeping room as possible, which meant sacrificing space elsewhere. I also needed room for my dog to sleep as well. For you, that may not be as important as having room for more storage or something else. I recommend laying the seats down and getting in there and really thinking about what’s important and what’s not so much. Besides researching online, talk to others who’ve done similar things or traveled in camper vans, as they’ll likely bring up things you may not have considered before.

I opted for a very simple design for several reasons. For one, my vehicle kinda dictated it. I also wanted something not only relatively easy to build, but easy for me to take in/out by myself and store at home. And if I built something, took it on the road, and hated it, I didn’t want to have spent a lot of time, money, and resources on it.

Materials Used:

  • Wood – I used about 3/4” piece of plywood for the platform and bought a few other wood pieces, as well as used some scraps we had for the legs and the weight-bearing reinforcement pieces. This will naturally vary depending on your specific needs.

  • Wood Screws – size will depend on the wood thickness you use.

  • Wood Glue

  • Wood sealant and brush

Tools Used:

  • Marker/Pencil

  • Saw

  • Drill and bits

  • Pocket hole jig

  • Level

  • Tape measure

  • Large clamps

  • Sandpaper

  • Velcro

A word about the wood and cutting it. If you don’t have access to a saw, most hardware stores will cut it for you, either for free or a reasonable fee. Policies may vary so they may not cut big pieces, a problem we ran into. And unless you want to make countless trips to the store, like me, try to have every little thing planned and measured out before heading out.

As I mentioned, when I originally built this, I had a 2017 Acura RDX and the seats did not fold down flat, instead there was a slight angle. Not wanting to take the seats out, we had to work around this. In the end it was pretty perfect. We built the platform in 2 pieces adding legs to make it stand level with the seats and so it would rest on top of them. This created a little under 7 inches of space below (6 3/4” to be exact) the platform in the very back, which was more than enough for my needs and allows me to fit various storage boxes and bins underneath.  A couple years ago, I added a sliding tray table under one side and I love the increased functionality!

Love my recently added sliding tray table and wish I had included it from the beginning.

STEP 1. MEASURE YOUR VEHICLE.

Of course, before you do anything else, you need to get your vehicle measurements and then determine what size your platform will be.

LENGTH: Measure the interior length of your vehicle from behind the front seat (or to wherever you want the platform to extend) to where the platform will end near the back of your vehicle. Don’t forget to take into account the wheel-well and any other structures, as well as make sure the platform doesn’t stick out past the rear doors.

My platform is a total of 57“ long, the front piece is 34” and the back/rear piece is 23” long (full disclosure, I might be off by a few centimeters here or there). I probably could’ve made the overall length a little longer, but it works for me.

Now if you’ve done the math, you might be asking how I fit if the pieces are less than 5 feet and clearly I am taller than that. I’ll get to that.

Trying to figure out the proper leg height needed to make platform level.

HEIGHT: Two things will dictate the height of your platform: any structures it needs to clear (like a wheel-well) and the amount of storage space underneath versus head room you want. My SUV’s design dictated this for me. Your vehicle might have more space and thus more flexibility in what you choose. The height of my platform is 6 3/4 inches.

When determining height, consider these questions: Do you want to be able to sit up all the way? Are there particular storage bins or items you want to fit underneath or anywhere in the vehicle for that matter? Don’t forget to account for the height/thickness of your sleeping and building materials. Lay down the seats and get in there and think about what other things you might need to consider.

As you can see in photo below, the RDX 2017’s seats didn’t fold down flat, so the front piece of the platform lays on the seats in front and then there are legs in back that make it level with the back platform piece. When I got the RDX 2021, the seats laid down not quite flat, requiring 5.5 inch legs to be added.

All finished and loaded up.

Front piece all finished and loaded up.

WIDTH: If you’ve got a lot of space to work with, you can calculate the width measurement once you know the height of your platform. Think about these things: Do you need to accommodate one person or two? What will you be sleeping on? Foam cut to size, sleeping pads, mattress, something else? For other people, like me, your vehicle is going to determine the width.

My platform is 39'“ wide and as you can see in the photo above, it’s a little smaller than the actual vehicle interior width. Once my “mattress” is in there though, it fills up the whole space. Leaving the extra room on the side is good for a couple reasons: it reduces the likelihood of damaging the interior of my car, and in the back, it allows me store things alongside the platform.

I sleep on a combo of an inflatable backpacking Thermorest sleeping pad, a foam egg-crate folded in half, and a fluffy mattress topper I already had. While I sleep comfortably and will try to get more into my complete set-up in another post, I am considering upgrading to more of an actual mattress at some point soon.

STEP 2. CUT YOUR WOOD PIECES.

My platform is created from two rectangular pieces with leg supports. The leg supports are made from 1.5“ x 1.5” wood and we used a 3/4” piece of wood as an additional support running the length of the platform.

One piece fits the section over the folded down seats, which in order to be level, required it to be on an angle, meeting the smaller piece in the rear.

Since moving to a 2021 RDX, in which the seats do fold down level, I added legs to make both pieces of the platform the same height. Sorry, forgot to take any photos, but it was the same process seen here.

Making the platform legs from a 1.5” x 1.5” piece of wood.

Making the platform legs.

STEP 3. MAKE POCKET HOLES + ASSEMBLE THE PLATFORM.

Assemble your platform pieces by applying wood glue to the connecting surfaces, then drill screws into each pocket hole. Evenly space the vertical supports along the length of the platform.

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Clamp and let the glue dry.

Details of the platform legs.

Close-up of the platform legs.

Drilling pocket holes.

Close-up of picket holes.

Vertical support along the length of the platform.

Securing the legs.

STEP 4. SAND + SEAL THE PLATFORM PIECES.

Be sure to sand everything really well and then apply a good sealant. The sealant helps protect the wood from humidity, water, heat, etc.

After sanding both pieces, we sealed them.

After sanding both pieces, we sealed them.

STEP 5. ASSEMBLE PLATFORM, MAKE YOUR BED & HIT THE ROAD.

Load up your mattress, pillows, blankets, and gear, and enjoy your bed and new lil’ home-on-wheels!

When I first built the platform, I left it bare and used an old blanket to cover it. This past year, I covered it in some inexpensive carpet squares, which makes it look so nice, but I still end up throwing an old blanket down to add a layer of protection between my bedding and the platform.

I first planned on securing the two pieces together with hinges. But several years later, the temporary heavy-duty velcro is still going strong and works perfectly for my needs.

How it looked when first completed in the 2017 RDX, before adding the carpet, sliding tray table, and modifying it with additional legs up front for the 2021 RDX.

OPTIONAL ADD-ONS

After my first trip in 2019, I added this lockable rooftop box which not only frees up space inside, but also allows me to take more gear for longer trips. I also added a sweet lil’ awning and then a couple years ago, I added a sliding tray table which I’ll try to not wait another 5 years to post about.

AN IMPORTANT NOTE ABOUT MOVING FROM THE 2017 TO 2021 RDX

As I’ve mentioned, when I got the 2021, I had to add more legs to level the platform since the seats now folded flat* unlike in the 2017. I didn’t take any photos of that, but we used the same process outlined above.

*The 2021 seats lay almost flat, but not quite. It required 5.5” legs to make it level with the other piece, but your build may be different.

In addition to the legs, we also added another wood support piece in the center of platform like we did on the other piece (I’ll add a photo of it to this post shortly.)

Close-up of the new legs (and lots of dog hair 🙈) to raise and level the front platform piece.  This also had the added benefit of creating more storage space underneath that I love.

After adding the legs, a support piece up the center was also added.

Here's how everything currently looks in the RDX 2021.

The platform fits more snuggly against the rear wheels now, but it still fits. I do worry a little about the interior fabric getting snagged or something, so just make sure you get good width measurements and don’t go any wider if you’ve also got a 2021. Adding the carpet around the edges also helps in reducing any potential for damage.

The platform could probably be a little longer, but it works for me, as I’m a side sleeper and usually scrunch up smaller than my 5’ 9” frame. Once I get all my bedding in there, it hangs over the edges creating a little more length and I lean the front seats back to create headboard effect.

I’ve seen other platform builds that bridge the gap between front seats and the platform in more creative ways, such as with a third panel that folds up and down. I went simple, but there are so many great ideas out there. Good luck!

Goodnight from the coast of northern California.

I’ll work on putting together a little tour of how everything looks all set up nowadays, so check back for that, but considering my blogging track record. that’ll either be within the next month or next year. It’s anyone’s guess.

Simple Tips To Level Up Your Family & Travel Photos | Part 2 by Shana Berenzweig


This post is Part Two of a Two-Part Series. Read Part One here.


I don’t know about y’all but I can’t believe it’s already the middle of July! Hopefully, y’all have been enjoying the long summer days and making memories with your loved ones.

And now I’m back to help y’all beautifully capture those moments.

In case you missed it, in my previous post I gave y’all 10 easy composition tips and now I’m sharing 7 of my simple, go-to, general photography tips to level up your travel and family photos. Try 'em at home, on your next trip, or wherever the next adventure takes y'all.

1. KEEP IT SIMPLE.

First, let’s talk gear. There’s a popular saying in photography that the best camera is the one who have with you. And that couldn’t be more true when it comes to vacation and the everyday moments. Capturing the memories are more important than your gear, so keep it simple and something easily accessible. For most people, this is going to be your cell phone camera, which are really pretty good nowadays.

2. BE PREPARED.

Whatever your camera using - whether a camera phone, a point and shoot, or big ol’ pro DSLR like me — make sure it is handy and ready to go with charged batteries and formatted memory cards.

With an iPhone (not sure about other models), you can add a camera shortcut or widget to your lock screen so you don’t even have to unlock it. This makes it really easy to access the camera. And if you don’t have it handy and ready, how are you going to capture those shots?

3. SWITCH UP YOUR PERSPECTIVE.

Have young kids or pets? Get down to their level and capture the action from there. Try laying down on the ground to see what the world looks like from their perspective. Your subjects will probably appreciate the change as well.

Even if you’re not photographing kids or pets, changing up your position and getting down low can also give you a beautiful foreground in your landscape images and maybe even provide a surface for reflections or simply a new interesting perspective to your images.

After you’ve gone low, try switching things up again and get up high for some images or use a bird’s eye perspective. The thing to remember here is to change things up and try shooting from a different position than you usually do.

4. MOVE YOUR FEET.

Like switching up your perspective, move beyond standard portraits or travel landscapes and shake things up with both wide and detail images. After you grab the “traditional” image/portrait that you’re happy with, take several steps back, look at your surroundings, and see what changes. Sometimes the environment can better tell the story and you can also use it to show relative size.

After you’ve gone wide, move in closer to create a more intimate portrait that keeps the focus on your subject. You can also get creative and photograph any details that you love or capture your eye. Capturing those details will bring you right back to the moment and feelings when you look at the images later.

5. LET THEM BE.

This might be the simplest, yet the hardest one for some people to do — or actually let go of — but just let your people be themselves. How ever — perfect or imperfect — they are in that moment.

Focus on the connection not perfection.

Welcome the real-life moments, alongside the posed ones, and together these will be the images that will matter most a few years down the line.

6. SAVE THE CHEESE AND JUST KEEP IT MOVING.

Trying to capture a portrait of that someone special? Nothing makes a portrait stale faster than keeping your subject frozen in place. Sure they can look at the camera and smile for a few frames, but after that keep it moving and keep people touching and connected.

I often ask my families to run, dance, twirl, tickle, turn the kids upside down or throw ‘em up in the air. I’ll encourage little ones to chase me, photographing them as I run backward. I even do what I can to get my big kids, teens, and adults moving somehow. Not only does this create more interesting images, it also relaxes them resulting in more authentic smiles.

7. DON’T FORGET TO GET IN THE FRAME.

If you’re the family historian and are not careful, you’ll end up not being in a single photo. Not a one.

And even if you think you don’t care now, I promise there will come a day when this changes, or perhaps even more importantly, your kids, family, and friends WILL CARE if you’re missing from these tangible memories.

So please do yourself and the rest of your family a favor and remember to pass the camera off every now and then so you’ll also be in the photo album. Ask your partner/spouse, your kids, a park ranger, a stranger, use a tripod, whatever you need to do to ensure your lovely face is in some photos.


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Kinsey's Senior Session | Austin, TX by Shana Berenzweig

I’ve been having so much fun working with seniors lately and Kinsey here was no exception. Kinsey was game to try anything and the camera loved her — a winning combination.

Like many of my seniors lately, Kinsey kept things simple and I’m in love with what we created together. Here are some of my favorites from our time together.

Congrats and have fun at Tech, Kinsey!


Interested in your own senior session? Or maybe a session for the whole family?

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Simple Tips To Level Up Your Travel & Family Photos | Part 1 by Shana Berenzweig


This post is Part One of a Two-Part Series on leveling up your travel and family photos. Read Part Two here.


Now that it’s officially summer, summer, summertime, many of us will be heading out near and far for some much-needed vacation time. After the difficult past few years of covid, lockdowns, hours of trip planning and rescheduling, record-high gas prices, and more, everyone is really gonna want to capture these special memories we’ve worked so hard to create.

Don’t worry, I’ve got you. This will the first in a two-part series on leveling up your travel and family photos.

This first post will focus on using some simple composition tips to elevate your images and help you capture great travel and family photos not only this summer but all year. And good news, these tips apply to photos of people, places, and things, and you can use them with whatever kind of camera you have.

Composition is simply how the key elements or subjects of a photo are arranged and can be made up of many different elements, or only a few, and the goal is to be visually appealing and hold the viewer’s attention.

When you include a Focal Point or Point of Interest in your composition, this gives the viewer a place for their eyes to rest, and without it, your image may not hold their attention. It also gives your photo meaning and intention. So, when taking a photo, always ask yourself:

  • How can I draw attention to the main subject?

  • How can I lead the viewer’s eye into and around the image?

  • How can I eliminate distracting parts of the scene?

Sometimes finding a good focal point is easy and others times you may need to get creative and really look for an interesting subject. Once you’ve identified a point of interest, you can then build your composition around that focal point to draw attention to it. 

Now, with these questions in mind, let’s take a look at 10 important elements and techniques of composition to help improve our photos.

1. RULE OF THIRDS

The Rule of Thirds is all about where you put the main elements or focal points in a scene. Using a common compositional technique that divides the frame into an equal, three-by-three grid with two horizontal lines and two vertical lines that intersect at four points. The rule, which really is just a guideline, suggests that the most powerful and aesthetically pleasing areas of the image are the four points where the lines intersect, and that our eyes are naturally drawn to these areas first.

Many digital cameras and phone cameras have a feature that displays two horizontal and two vertical lines to help with composition.

2. BORDER PATROL

This one is about as simple as they get: before pressing the shutter, make sure to look around the borders of your frame, and your main subject, especially if it’s a person, and make sure there are no unwanted objects invading from the edges.

This means any tree branches, light poles, signs, bright colors or light, or other unsightly objects floating around. These invaders become unwanted distractions, and with them being so close to the edge of your photo, they inevitably pull the eye away from what it's meant to be focusing on. Similarly, check the overall background of your image and reduce clutter that may distract the viewer from the main point of interest.

3. RULE OF ODDS

For whatever reason, using an odd number of subjects can also make the image more interesting and aesthetically pleasing to people. There are many times we can use the Rule of Odds to make our images better, especially with objects. By having one or three elements is better than two. It might not seem like such a big change, but I bet that now I’ve put it in your head you will start to notice it everywhere! And how much more pleasing to the eye it is.

4. LEADING LINES

Using leading lines in your composition is a great way of drawing the eye into the image, and when used correctly, one of the most powerful ways to create an image with a really strong visual impact. Roads, paths, bridges, and rivers are commonly used as leading lines.

5. FILL THE FRAME

If the main subject of your photo doesn’t stand out clearly enough against its surroundings, it will lack oomph. One simple way to avoid that is to fill the frame with your subject. This means getting closer so all of the surrounding background is eliminated, making your photos more impactful and intimate. Cutting out unnecessary background detail ensures the subject gets the full attention of the viewer. It also captures more detail and can create some really unique and abstract images.

6. COLOR

Color is another easy way to give your photos more oomph. You can choose to include one or several bold and striking colors to make your subjects stand out. Or you can go for pastel shades for light and airy visuals, or even shades of one color for soothing simplicity. Complementary colors are also great for creating a stunning and well-balanced image; try using a color wheel for help. You may also want to play with color to create interesting images or you can use certain shades to evoke various emotions, such as happiness with bright yellows or pinks and mystery with darker hues.

7. LOOK FOR PATTERNS, TEXTURES, AND SYMMETRY

The human eye has a natural tendency to pick up on patterns, repetition, symmetry, and showcasing geometric shapes or interesting textures can be a very alluring way to pull the viewer in.

8. FRAMING

Framing is just like it sound. Using objects in the foreground, or the part of the image closest to you, you’ll create a “frame” around the main subject and drawing the eye towards it. As well as creating more visual interest, framing adds meaning to a photo as it puts the main subject in context with its surroundings.

9. MINIMALISM + NEGATIVE SPACE

Many times the simplest photos turn out to be my favorite. Minimalism in your images can help to give the viewer a singular point of focus on your subject. Often this means a simple and uncluttered background, which is a great tactic to use in portraiture. Another way to achieve minimalism is through the use of Negative Space, which put simply, is the space around the object itself that helps define the positive space or main focus of the image.

10. BREAK THE RULES + HAVE FUN

Photography is an art, not a science. No matter what I said above, there are no strict rules about what you can and cannot do in photography, instead just guidelines and tips. While they often prove useful in many situations, don’t let them restrict your creativity. If they don’t work in your image, ignore them, experiment, and have fun. But to break the rules you must learn them first. So, study the techniques covered above, practice them until they are second nature, then start breaking the rules and see what happens!


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Adin's Senior Session | Austin, TX by Shana Berenzweig

Welp. Here we are again.

It’s been almost a year since my last blog post.

I’ve even had multiple post drafts this.close to being finished. But then more important work and life things will demand my time and attention, and next thing you know, the days turn into weeks and months.

So, here I am again. Trying to breathe some life back into this dusty old blog.

Okay, enough of that.

A few months ago, Adin’s mom got in touch about a senior session for her son before he headed off to Texas A&M in the fall. After talking about possible location ideas, we settled on an urban setting at a local college campus, and I really love the slightly industrial vibe of some of the photos, not to mention all the shadows and light, symmetry, and patterns we found.

While seniors can bring multiple outfits, Adin wanted to keep things simple and I love what we created. Here are some of my faves.

Congrats, Adin, not only on your high school graduation and admission to Texas A&M in the fall, but becoming an Eagle Scout, the highest rank attainable in the Scouts BSA program of the Boy Scouts of America.

All of my senior sessions include 10-15 minutes to take a few photos with parents and siblings, so before we got started with Adin, mom and dad hopped in front of the camera for a few frames.


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To Bribe Or Not To Bribe by Shana Berenzweig


This post is part of an ongoing series focused on getting you and your family ready for your photo session. Read other posts right here and check back for more soon.


Ahhh, the never-ending dilemma of parents everywhere — ‘to bribe or not to bribe’ your kids before family photos?

As I’ve discussed before in a slightly dramatic titled blog post, family photo day can be a very stressful time and for many parents, their worst nightmare is the kids not cooperating and it’s tempting to fall back on bribery.

This can definitely be a tricky situation and I’m here to help.

I used to be all about bribery and whatever parents needed to do to get their kids excited about the session and be ‘cooperative’ (which I hate to use, but haven’t found a better word yet).

But after getting more family sessions under my belt, I started noticing something happening, especially as the kids get older. Y’all, the magic of the bribe was wearing off and starting to backfire as kids were quickly losing interest in being ‘cooperative’ at all.

Some kids were becoming so focused on the bribe at the end of the session that they just want to get it done and would do the bare minimum in order to get the promised reward. Next thing you know, the “Are we done yet?” whines start coming fast and furious, inevitably someone in the family gets frustrated, and things quickly go downhill from there.

Another problem I saw was that parents weren’t really prepared for actually following through on their bribery threats and/or what the unintended consequences for the session would be if they did. This is something you and your partner should discuss and be prepared for prior to the session.

Now, ultimately, you know your people best, but I’m here to gently encourage y’all to reconsider ‘the bribe factor’ or at least not make it the first thing y’all resort to. When you book a session with me, I’ll send a detailed guide for getting ready for your session, but I thought I’d share some of my tips here, too.

It’s been my experience that one of the most helpful pieces of advice I can give parents is to be mindful of the way y’all talk about your upcoming session with your kids. There are generally two (totally opposite, I know, sorry!) ways to approach an upcoming session that will depend on the kids’ personalities and ages.

One approach is to hype up the session, talk about it in a positive way, and stress how much fun it will be. If this is your first time or the kids are younger, explain how things will go — who I am and how I’ll ask y’all for lots of hugs, kisses, tickles, love, laughter, dancing, etc, and yes, some smiles — you know, emphasis the good times ahead, not perfect pictures.

The last thing we want is for kids to pick up on any stress or anxiety. Because I promise you, kids totally pick on that energy. I’ve seen it first-hand many times.

The other approach is not to talk about it too much or make a big deal about it, maybe don’t even tell ‘em until shortly before the session. Sometimes when kids sense a big deal thing coming up, they don’t respond with their best selves. And the same thing can go for the adults too, I know I’m guilty at times of the anticipation of something causing all sorts of stress and anxiety.

Also, my longtime clients know I usually have my own special rewards for kids when the session is done, so if things do start to go sideways, we can always fall back on that or bust out your bribe.

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Okay, so you know bribery is the best way to go with your crew, now what?

First of all, no judgment from me.

The trickiest part of going the bribery route, however, is that every kiddo is different when it comes to the bribe. For instance, I can clearly recall an at-home newborn session very early on in my photography career and the parents really, really wanted the kids to pose in a certain way and no matter what we tried to use as a bribe, the older sibling would.not.do.it and by the end, the entire family was exhausted by all the effort and we never got the shot.

With many more years of experience under my belt, I now know how to nip that situation in the bud. It didn’t take long to see the attempted bribery was not helping at all and was having a negative effect on the poor kid who did not under any circumstance want to kiss their new sibling.

Since kids have different personalities and like different things, the hard part is not only finding out what works best for your flock but also won’t backfire. Some kids are motivated by candy, others a trip to the playground or special dinner, and for older kids, cold hard cash.

If you decide to use a little bribery to get what you want, here are some other ideas beyond the obvious and popular choices of sweets or cash for older kids:

  • That awesome toy they’ve been drooling over.

  • A later bedtime.

  • Breakfast/Dinner at their favorite spot after the session.

  • Extra screen time on their favorite device.

  • A sleepover with a friend.

  • Extended playtime.

  • They don’t have to eat their vegetables that night at dinner.

  • They don’t have to do chores the next day.

  • Give them back a privilege that’s been taken away the last time they were in trouble.

These are just a starting point to brainstorm your own ideas, and if y’all have your own suggestions for either bribes or thoughts for not bribing your kiddos, I’d love to hear them and I bet other parents would too, so please leave ‘em in the comments.

When there is a limited amount of time for your session (like my Pop-Up Portrait Sessions, which I still have some spots left for if you haven’t booked your session yet), no matter how many times you’ve done family photos, it’s easy to start feeling anxious about being able to get all of the photos that you want.

That’s okay and totally natural.

It’s also okay and totally natural to see bribery as the answer.

I most definitely don’t want you to be stressed out or feel crunched for time because someone is suddenly shy, having a meltdown, or sticking their tongue out at me.

And that’s when — regardless of whether you’ve gone the bribery route or not — it is crucial to trust me as your photographer, allow me to take the wheel, and lead the way. Take a break and let me be the “parent” for a little while.

All you have to do is relax, love on your people, and have some fun. Let your kids be kids and embrace the chaos and natural beauty of your family story.

3 Things to Help You Get Over Your Fear of Being Photographed by Shana Berenzweig


This post is part of an ongoing series focused on getting you and your family ready for a photo session. Read other installments on the Do’s and Don’ts of What to Wear and 5 Stressing Relieving Tips To Not Have A Breakdown During Your Session, and check back for more soon.


It’s almost second nature for humans to be self-critical. We nitpick at our hair, our faces, our figure, our parenting, our relationships. You name it and we’re critical of it, and the sad truth is that we’re usually hardest on ourselves.

How is it that others can easily see the beauty in us, when we have such a hard time seeing it ourselves?

And while I don’t have the answer to that eternal question, I do know that, unfortunately, this mindset often means that we put off taking professional photos until we’ve lost those “last few pounds,” or until our hair grows out, or we find the perfect location and outfit, or until, until, until.

The problem with waiting until everything is “perfect” is that, well, you might be waiting for a while to finally get those pictures taken. There’s always an excuse not to if you have that mindset.

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I might be a little biased, but indefinitely postponing portraits means you’re missing out on meaningful photographs that you and your family will ultimately treasure for many years to come. Or, it expand this idea further, professional photos might just be that extra oomph that sets your LinkedIn profile or small business website or social media apart from the competition.

So, to help you feel more comfortable during your next photo shoot — whenever it may be and whether it’s a family session, new headshots, or something else entirely — I’ve outlined a few things to keep in mind. Now, I know this won’t eliminate all your fears, but hopefully help ease some of your anxiety.

Bottom line. Don’t let your desire for perfection hold you back from this experience. Perfect doesn’t exist. Instead, let’s make some perfectly-imperfect magic together.

I’ve Got the TOOLS + Skills to Make You Look Amazing.

Did you know that those selfies we all take with cameras phones not only distort the way your face actually looks, but that it’s even lead to a rise in cosmetic surgery and treatments? Even non-professional DSLRs are known for distorting facial proportions or using on-camera flashes that lead to unflattering shadows.

As a professional, I not only have the best equipment to make you look amazing, but also know my way around the best lenses, light, angles, and all that good stuff. Like Vidal Sassoon used to say, “If you don’t look good, I don’t look good.”

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I’ll Tell You Exactly What to Do.

I also have the experience and knowledge (going on 10+ yrs now) on how best to pose and direct you.

A very common thing I hear before a session is something to the effect of, “I don’t know how to stand. I’m always so awkward. I hate every photo of myself!” I say these things, too, y’all are not alone.

Trust me when I say that you won’t have to think about how to pose, what to do with your hands, how to tilt your head, or any of that during our session. I will walk you through it all, and you’ll look incredible.

YEARS FROM NOW, You’ll Be So Glad You Took ‘Em.

I touched on this already, but it’s such a huge point that I feel like it deserves to be repeated.

Years from now you will be so glad that you took these photos. You’ll look back on the day and think about how much fun you had and get nostalgic about what that period in your life was like. Your family and friends will treasure those images, too.

If you still feel like you don’t want your picture taken, do it for future you and those you love.

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